My flight from Berlin to Salzburg is delayed, and I had to gate-check my container, and I have a middle seat. But as I induce my style back to row 11, I insure theres a silver lining the guy in the window seat is cute. cute. He has dark brown hair and thick forearms and a crisp, angled profile. His knees are making the seat in front of him, which entails hes tall. He seems to be a few years younger than me.
Stealing sidelong glances at him, I insure hes reading a publication in Spanish, which is odd because he doesnt look at all Latin. He looks like he merely strolled out of a poster ad Oktoberfest, or polka, or something similarly German and traditional.
He doesnt glance in my direction, assimilated in his magazine. But were in the exit row, and when the stewardess gestures at the emergency door during her security demonstration, he abruptly turns to me and says with a smile, I guess its all on me. I chuckle, surprised, and taking this as an invitation to talk, I ask, Where are you from?
Germany, he says. Southern Germany , not Berlin. I was here for a family reunion. Now that I can see his whole face I confirm that he is, indeed, very handsome.
But youre reading in Spanish, I point out, And your English is perfect. You sound like an American.
He smilings again, his cheek dimpling, and I decide he has one of the most charming smiles Ive seen in a while. He tells me he spent two years examining in the US. Hes trying to learn Spanish because he wants to go to South America next year, and hes also learning Russian because hes going to Moscow and St. Petersburg next month.
Hes garmented smartly in a polo and khaki shorts, his hair neatly combed, and I start to wish Id taken more care with my appearance. I have a bad habit of looking like a homeless person when I travel, and today is no exception Im wearing comfy but mismatched clothes, my uncombed hair is in a frizzy, tangled braiding, and my eyes are bloodshot from the two hours of sleep Id managed to squeeze in between coming home from a nightclub( because, when in Berlin) and heading to the airport. Patrick is definitely not find me at my aesthetic best.
He doesnt seem to mind, though. He asks me about my trip-up, and tells me what differences I can expect between Germany and Austria. I wait for him to drop mention of a spouse or girlfriend into the conversation a guy this cool must be taken but he doesnt.
We start talking about politics and history and religion, and it turns out Patrick is a wealth of knowledge on all three of these topics. Embarrassingly, he knows more about American politics than I do, and he rattles off historical facts like hes reading from an encyclopedia.
How do you know all this? I ask, impressed.
I read a lot, he says with a modest shrug. Now Im the one who smiles. The impact on me when a human says he reads a lot is what other women must feel when men disclose that theyre rich, or really good in bed, or they own a plane or a boat .
Do you also have a photographic memory? I ask, only half-joking. He giggles, and blushes, and I suppose his blush is adorable, and we spend the next twenty minutes geeking out about our favorite newspapers and magazines.
After landing we walk to baggage claim together, and Im hoping hell ask for my number. We both linger, and to me it feels like were both hesitate, but then we wish one another well and portion ways.
Watching the automatic door whoosh shut behind him, I instantly start kicking myself. Why didnt I ask for number?
Salzburg is a small city, and for the next three days Im constantly hoping to run into Patrick. I scour LinkedIn and Facebook for him, searching his name combined with the small handful of details I know about him.
It turns out theres a lot of Patricks in Germany and Austria, though, and I dont have a clue what his last name is. After expending more time looking for him than I care to admit, I give up.
I console myself with the thought that it was just physical attraction and one hour of good conversation. Thats all nothing to act out a Greek tragedy over.
But dont most relationships start with physical attraction or good conversation, or ideally, both? What are the odds Id happen to be seated next to the cutest guy on the plane wed hit it off? Opportunities to fulfils humen not involving an app these days are few and far between, and Im still kicking myself for bypassing what seemed like an ideal scenario.
That saying about regretting the things you didnt do more than the ones you did actually holds true in love.
Not coincidentally, love is also where the stakes are highest; nothing hurts more than heartbreak, and being or not being with someone can change the course of your whole life.
If Id asked Patrick for his number, perhaps hed have said I have a girlfriend or Im not interested. I wouldve had a moment of mild shame, then Id have gotten over it within hours. At least Id know what his deal was knowing is so much better than wondering and at the least Id have tried.
Theres also the potential hed have been glad I asked, and marriage still be in touch now.
Id like to say I learned my lesson, but the truth is there will probably be future scenarios where Ill stand there mutely and bite my lip instead of saying, Youre cool, want to hang out?
As a reminder, though, I maintain a listing of quotes in my phone for instant gallantry. This is one of them 😛 TAGEND
In other terms: when it comes to love, always, always go for it.
Say I love you first. Approach someone you think is out of your league. Ask the cute guy from the plane for his number, then construct plans to see him again. Theres so much more to be gained than there is to be lost.
And, to Patrick from southern Germany who sat next to me on the flight from Berlin to Salzburg: if you ever happen to read this, I hope youll write me.